I do understand that not being a victim can be hard. It is the easy way out. I've seen the foster care statistics (or click here to look at the statistics) and I know that the odds are stacked against foster kids and abuse victims. It would be really easy to leave it at that and say that the situation makes it almost impossible to succeed and unfortunately many do. This is falling victim to yourself. Im not saying that therapy is a bad thing but many people go for years and years only reliving there past. There comes a time that you just have to realize and accept what happened and decide where you want your life to go. If your 30 years old and still reliving what happened to you when you were a child, then how many years have you wasted still being a victim of what happened so long ago? How many years have you not really lived?
If this hit home then start taking steps to stop being a victim. I think we spend a lot of time trying to over analyze the situation and figure things out. Most of the time it’s something that can’t really be figured out or understood. Take a few steps to stop becoming a victim:
- Stay positive and maintain positive thoughts. Look for things to be thankful for. What have you gained even characteristically from your situation.
- Remove negative aspects of your life. This sometime means staying away from certain people that are negative or cause you to be negative.
- Set realistic goals and put forth the effort and work to achieve them
- Stop dwelling on the past and don't allow yourself to be labeled or placed in a statistic.That is only limiting yourself.
- Accept what you've gone through, put it prospective and live!